You have often heard of the term, slay queen and you already know it’s not associated with something good. The word, “slay” has a different meaning though. It means someone who is doing well in his or her endeavours. So one would wonder why a slay queen is a derogatory term, especially in Africa.
In Nigeria, a slay queen is akin to a runs girl, the type they call “small girl with a big God.” It doesn’t matter what she has to go through to get to where she is; as long as she’s slaying, she’s a subject of ridicule.
Who is a slay queen?
A slay queen is a lady who lives a luxurious lifestyle that seems above her means. She is most likely someone from the middle to the low class who has to struggle every day for her living. The internet is the perfect platform for slay queens as they use social media to showcase their physical attributes. This is why a lot of Nigerians see them as more advanced prostitutes than actual well-groomed ladies.
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Benefits of being a slay queen
Being a slay queen comes with several benefits and they are:
Having lots of admirers both on and off the internet
If you’re a slay queen, you know you will never run short of admirers, both male and female. The females will aspire to be like you, while the males will be vying for your attention. Either ways, it’s to your own benefit and if you’re smart, you can profit off it. This is why a lot of Instagram models are slay queens. They slay and get paid.
Boosts self-confidence
When you have admirers who want your attention, your self-confidence increases. A lot of slay queens are insecure people who depend on followers’ compliments to feel good about themselves. It’s not a bad thing to be admired. In fact, it shows that you’re appreciated by both friends and strangers. That’s a big boost to self-confidence.
You can have your pick of men
If you’re a well-endowed slay queen, then men will be falling over themselves to have your attention. They are willing to pay any price just to go on a date with you. While other girls are crying “God when?” because no man seems to pay them attention, you have them in droves and can even “dash” some of them out to your friends. Slay queens are selective of the men they want. Of particular preference are rich men who can comfortably fund their expensive lifestyles.
Your chances of getting married to a rich man are high
They say it’s better to cry in a mansion than in a face-me-I-slap-you. Where a decent or regular girl is afraid to go, a slay queen will fly into it. A decent/regular girl is afraid of going straight to hell due to one kin lifestyle, a slay queen will drive into hell as long as she gets what she wants. This is why the possibility of a slay queen getting married to a wealthy man seem to be higher than that of a decent/regular girl.
This is because a slay queen knows where they find such men. She also knows what to do to get them to give her that ring. Hence, a decent/regular girl will end up with a man struggling to put food on the table while a slay queen is cruising the world in a private jet proudly sponsored by her husband. Never mind whether the marriage is a happy one or not.
How to be a slay queen
Wear heavy make up
Don’t you dare meet anyone without full makeup on your face. You don’t want them to see the flaws, do you? As a slay queen, you should look perfectly groomed, even if it means sleeping with your makeup on. Have a makeup artist on speed dial or buy a complete make-up kit and do it yourself. Remember, your eyebrows must be on fleek, everything must be perfect to avoid disappointing comments from your admirers.
Seek attention on social media
You’re not a complete slay queen without thousands or millions of followers on your social media handle. Each post must generate hundreds and thousands of likes and comments. How do you do that? Post sexy stuff on your account. Thirst trap your followers and watch them drooling over you.
Try to sound like an Americana in your captions
You don’t have to show the world that you attended Cambridge University. Just sound like an Americana from da hood in your captions and posts and you’re there. You can post something like, “Hello, y’all,” or “y’all be tripping, you know what am saying.” “Shoutout to all queens are theya.” Y’all rock #blackqueens #queening #bosslady #smallgirlbiggod
Don’t bother about serious relationships
Going into a serious relationship means committing to one person. This means you have to sacrifice all the other men that could fund your lifestyle. No, you don’t want that. You want to cash out as much as possible. So a serious relationship should take a back seat in your life until you find the one man that can give you everything you need and some, that is, after you’re done milking others.
Use Instagram and Snapchat filters
Sometimes your make-up can disappoint you. Here come Instagram and Snapchat filters to the rescue. As a slay queen, your looks must be perfect. So, filters and photoshop should be your friends.
Know what’s trending
Oh yeah, you should be fashion-forward. You absolutely need to know what’s going on in the entertainment space, especially fashion. Wear only expensive clothes even if it means borrowing with your life as collateral. Make sure you’re styled like someone from a Vogue photoshoot.
Live large
Don’t be a wannabe slay queen. If you want to be a slay queen, you must go all out to become one. Go on exotic trips. Snap pictures of yourself enjoying an expensive dinner at a luxurious hotel or something. Let your social media handle be filled with the expensive lifestyle you have even if, in reality, you’re soaking Ijebu garri with N20 sugar everyday.
Hang with the happening crowd
Never you be seen hanging around poor people except you’re doing charity. Choose your circle wisely. Associate yourself with celebrities and movers and shakers of any industry. Then post your hangout with them on social media. It will fetch you more followers. That’s how you become a slay queen.